5 FAQs About Online Marriage Counseling In San Diego, CA.

If you are considering online marriage counseling, you may have some questions around whether or not it is right for you and your partner. Below are some of the questions we get before couples come in to see us.

1. Can online marriage counseling really help us to feel connected again?

When you feel disconnected from your partner, it often feels impossible to think you could ever share your feelings and reignite that connection with them. It can feel uncomfortable to begin sharing your feelings again. This is totally normal and is something therapist’s are familiar with! There is definitely something about being in the presence of a trusted professional that makes the space feel “safe” enough to share your feelings and to be vulnerable again. Providing you and your partner are respectful of the vulnerabilities shared, it only gets easier after that.

2. I don’t even know my spouse anymore, how will therapy help?

When couples have grown apart, they stop asking each other questions. Instead, spouses seem to operate upon assumptions – meaning that they tend to assume they know what their partner is thinking or feeling… sometimes correctly, but often times not. Counseling encourages you to begin asking each other questions. More than that, therapy helps you to ask the right questions and then to really listen to the response you get.

3. We fight over stupid things and can’t get to the real issues – can therapy help?

It is likely that if you are coming into therapy, there is much currently going on between the two of you that needs to be resolved. The fights about who unloads the dishwasher are important because they shed light on the underlying patterns of interaction and disconnection between the two of you. However, if there are old wounds that have been left festering and causing heartache, then these need to be processed and healed as well. Counseling is a great place to do this as it helps to keep the two of you focused on the ultimate goal, provides strategies for working through, and helps you develop an understanding around the challenges you have both experienced.

4. We’ve tried making promises of change to each other before, and it doesn’t work.

Attending therapy consistently is a great way to not only ensure that you work through the struggles you have experienced as a couple, but also making sure you both follow through on making changes. Coming to therapy acts as a third party that you both need to report to, and it can help you both keep trying to make the changes that are needed. Eventually, it does get easier!

5. We don’t even know how to talk to each other anymore and we just end up fighting. We are not sure that therapy can change that.

Couples tend to fall into familiar patterns of communicating and interacting with each other. This can often make you both feel like you are “stuck”, leading to feelings of hopelessness. Sometimes, all it takes is a skilled therapist noticing this pattern and introducing alternatives to disrupt and initiate change.

Hopefully these answered some of your questions. If not, please give us a call and we will do our best to answer them! If you are ready to begin online marriage counseling, follow the steps below:

1. Contact Headway Therapy.
2. Meet with one of our expert couples counseling therapists.
3. Build a stronger connection with your partner.

Other Counseling Services at Headway Therapy

Couples counseling is not the only service we offer in our Encinitas therapy group. Other mental health services at Headway Therapy include treatment for depression and mood, anxiety treatment, therapy for teens, therapy for children, counseling and support for infertility, and therapy for pregnant and postpartum families. We look forward to connecting with you!